Backyard to the Universe
Ministry With Dawgs - Thanks To Tess
THANKS TO TESS
Posting on FaceBook, April 5, 2013
Further Reflection (Some details of Tess’s life referred to here are explained more in the piece, Being Displaced.)
With loss comes adjustment -- nothing new there. When Tess went back to her family, Kira, the cockatiel, took over the greeter/watchdog function, letting us know when someone was coming and demanding attention when we came home. Actually, Tess never really regained that function when she returned to us, especially as her hearing deteriorated. She also let go of being the assertively dominant dog. We saw what with Millie over the last year. In fact, it seemed that she actually let Millie become part of the pack with Parsi. (This was about the time I had reconciliation with a colleague, so was subtly aware of the process.)
It is the daily traits that we notice, like her not being in the kitchen to help with the preparation of meals (meaning wanting pieces of apples, peppers or raw potatoes). Each of us, by our very being, has a place in the universe, a pattern to our actions as we interact with the beings around us. May we be aware that we are essential parts of the lives of others, as others are parts of our lives. The absence that comes with death causes us to realize the interrelatedness in different ways, still keeping the connections that have become part of the tapestry of our lives.
Thanks, Tess, for your devotion, for needing us, for teaching me so many lessons in our time together.
April 14, 2013